Finding Motivation Shouldn’t Take Extraordinary Measures

This weekend Amanda  ( http://www.thexraychic.com ) and I went and watched the movie, “Extraordinary Measures.”  I am personally a HUGE fan of movies and really enjoy those based on true stories the most.  There is just something about watching a film about an event which has actually occurred and getting a chance to experience the different points of view of the characters.

Although some movies miss the mark and aren’t very interesting, this movie did an excellent job!

The movie was a story about a father who had two children with Pompe Disease which is very similar to Muscular Dystrophy.  The muscles deteriorate due to the inability of the body to  break down the sugars.  According to the movie the life expectancy of a child with the disease is only about 9 years.

I was on the verge of tears several times  as I watched the parents struggle with the fact: two of their children were nearing that magic age of 9, while they were desperately seeking a cure for this horrible disease.  The father was constantly doing research just trying to find some hope.  He ultimately identified a grumpy old scientist who had a theory which gave him hope.

He quit his high level corporate job and basically gave everything he had to find a cure which would POSSIBLY lengthen the lives of his children.  He had an incredible decision to make since, based on what the doctors had told him, and the normal course of the disease, his children had a very short period of time left.  His decision was to either spend the last few “days” with his children, or fight like hell to try to find a solution which would not cure them, but could possibly lengthen their lives.

Alright, I am not a movie reviewer, nor do I want to ruin the outcome of the movie for you if you choose to see it.  :)

When I left the theater I couldn’t stop thinking about how I would do the exact same thing he did if I found my children in any type of similar situation.  There would be NOTHING that could stop me from turning over every stone to uncover something to possibly save them.

I also began to think about how challenging it is for some people to find the motivation to do even the bare minimum to succeed.  I’ve met some incredibly intelligent people who have tremendous skills and talents who seem to not move ahead in life.  I used to spend time wondering why and in some cases, I tried to motivate them myself.

The problem is some people simply don’t contain the self motivation necessary to do anything beyond existing.

Although I now accept this as just the way it is, I believe this movie can teach a lesson that it DOESN’T have to be that way.  If you find yourself in the position where it is difficult to motivate yourself  … You need to find a big enough reason why.

I thank God every day that my children are healthy and happily enjoying life.  When I find it difficult to find motivation I simply think about the type of example I am setting for them.  If my children see me working hard to become successful, and working just as hard to give them a happy life … I believe that example will perpetuate itself and be passed on to their children, and their children’s children.

I don’t think it should take extraordinary measures to find motivation within yourself.  I believe we need to look deep inside ourselves and find something that is important enough to help you make it through the times of difficulty.

I believe that if you get in the habit of finding this reason why, and focus on it consistently, you can prevent yourself from ever being in the position to learn how to motivate yourself when it is simply too late and you are forced to pay the painful price of taking what life has given you.

What is your reason why?

Guide Yourself With Strong Resolutions

Here we are again at the time of the year when we’ve spent time reviewing the previous year, and in this case … decade.  It’s now time to chart out what you’ll focus on for the coming year.

Have you taken the time to create your New Year’s resolutions?

Are you one of those people who just don’t believe in making resolutions?

Or …

Are you the person who won’t tell anyone because you’re pretty sure you won’t follow them anyhow and don’t want to embarrass yourself.  :)

This year I took special care in setting my resolutions.  I used the fact that we transitioning from one decade to another as a reason to spend more time and effort reflecting and planning for the coming year.

I have to admit I’ve typically come up with resolutions like the following ….

“I will lose 20 pounds.”

or

“I won’t eat fast food.”

This year I was determined to come up with resolutions that were far more significant than I’d ever come up with in the past.  I decided I wanted to come up with  guiding statements that I could use to keep me on course for longer than the 30 days most people stay on course.

I normally keep my resolutions to myself since nobody really cares anyhow.  This year, however, I’d like to share them with you for a couple reasons.

First of all,  I think they are very solid and I’d love to have you hold me accountable if you see me going astray.

Secondly, I think they might help those of you who are still in the process of setting your resolutions for the coming year.

Well, here they are …

I will enjoy my family

This may seem strange and even something that should come naturally.  Well, I can honestly say I DO enjoy my family and really love spending time with them.

The only problem is when things get busy and life “happens,” it’s easy to lose sight of how important my family is, and at times, I allow my crazy schedule to impact my mood and the way I respond to the most important people in my life.  This resolution is meant to keep me on track.

When I notice that I am being short with them, or not paying complete attention because I am distracted with something else … I’ll think about this resolution and ask myself.  “Am I enjoying my family right now?”  I believe this will get me back on track.

I will live healthy

This resolution is something I can use whenever I am faced with making a potentially bad decision.  Just this afternoon, for example, I was bringing my daughter to her acting classes and ran through a drive through to get her some food to hold her over.  I was faced with the option of ordering some french fries or a nice greasy hamburger.  I immediately thought of this resolution and decided against it.

You may say, “Ah … I see.  You will live healthy but subject your daughter to being unhealthy.”  :)

Come on.  I am 40 and have the metabolism of a sloth.  My daughter is a teenager and can handle a happy meal every now and then.

I will learn every day

Knowledge is power and the most successful people on this planet don’t let anything interfere with their learning.  I aspire to be one of those people so I don’t have a choice.  :)

Seriously though, I am invigorated by learning and realize the more I learn, the smarter I become and the more value I bring to the marketplace.  I don’t care how busy my schedule gets, I can always find 30-60 minutes each day to participate in some active learning … and I will!

I will do it now

I, like a lot of people, have dealt with procrastination for a long time.  The horrible thing about procrastination is the amount of mental energy you expend thinking about the tasks you have on your plate.

No matter how big or small, they consume brain power you could be using for something productive.  Not only that … at times it can flat out cause you to deal with unnecessary anxiety.

How many times have you found yourself stressed out about a task for a couple weeks, a month, or even years.  Once you finally took the time to accomplish the task you found out it only took you a few minutes or an hour to accomplish.

Didn’t you feel stupid for allowing something so insignificant to occupy so much of your life?  What if you would have simply addressed it the first time it was on your mind?

From now on I will!  :)

I will be focused

Although I say ADD is my superpower, it is also an excuse I use for non-productivity far too often.

The mind is an incredible tool!  I believe it is possible to harness the power and learn how to stay super focused on whatever I am working on at any time.  Doing this will ensure I stay as productive as possible and also will help my family realize how important they are to me.

How many times have you found your mind drifting off when your wife or kids were telling you about their day?  I can assure you the next time I find that happening I’ll think about this resolution and I’ll get my mind back and focused on the right thing.

I will finish

I’ve had a handwritten note on my desk for the past year which has a simple saying on it.  The saying is, “There is no lack of good ideas, only a lack of follow through.”

This is an incredibly strong statement and one I am truly glad I stumbled across.  We always tell our children, “You should always finish what you start.”

How can we tell our kids that and not live by the same standards ourselves?  Well now I will, and I believe my kids will follow my example much more than they listen to my words.

Well if they know what’s good for them they will.  :)

There you have it folks.  Those are the six guiding resolutions that I’ll be highly tuned into for the next decade, and I believe the results will show.

I’d love it if you’d share any resolutions you’ve made which have had a significant impact on the course of your life. If not, your thoughts on this post would be fine.

I wish you the best for the new decade.  Whatever you do, approach each day with purpose and don’t let life guide you.  If you do, you may not like where it takes you.  :)